Christian Artist Hannah Kerr on Relationships: Singleness, Heartbreak and Tips for Keeping Christ at the Center!

I’m so happy you’re here, because you’re in for a treat today! One of my favorite female Christian artists, Hannah Kerr, is sharing some incredible advice on love, singleness and heartbreak. Hannah’s music has been such an encouragement to me over the past couple years, and if you’ve never heard of her before, you need to go give her beautiful voice a listen! Some of my favorite songs by her are “Warrior,” “Undivided” and “I Stand Here” (but honestly, all of them are amazing). Click here to find all the places where you can purchase/stream Hannah’s music!

Jesus binds our wounds and reminds us that He has never left us. His love is perfect even when the love we experience from other people is not. -Hannah Kerr

THERE ARE SO MANY GIRLS OUT THERE WHO ARE STILL WAITING FOR MR. RIGHT. WITH RELATIONSHIPS ALL AROUND US, IT CAN BE HARD NOT TO FEEL LONELY OR PRESSURED TO SETTLE. WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO GIRLS WHO ARE IN THE WAITING?

I totally understand the feeling of loneliness as you wait for the right guy to come along. I know that it is definitely not fun. But the thing that can help you through that season is knowing that God will bring the right person into your life at just the right time; often when we surrender our relationship status to Him and allow ourselves to grow closer to Him first. A quote I really clung to in my season of loneliness was: “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him to find her.” The waiting is not easy but being single is a great time to draw near to the Lord. This is a perfect time for Him to speak truth over your identity and worth as a woman without being connected to a relationship. My time of singleness was long but worth it because by the time I got into a relationship I knew myself so well and had a solid foundation of faith in God.

Follow Hannah on Instagram (@_hannahkerr) to see more puppies and pictures from her travels—like this yummy-looking gelato from Italy!

HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED HEARTBREAK? HOW DID YOU GET THROUGH IT?

I have experienced some heartbreak, and although no two heartbreaks are the same, they all hurt, and they all leave a mark on you. It is more than okay to let yourself feel sad when a relationship is over (although you don’t actually have to be in a relationship to have your heart broken—I’ve been there too!). But also know that the sadness that feels so fresh and unending will fade with time. The best cure for a broken heart is to give it time. It may feel like you’ll never recover but you will! God is in the heart-mending business, and He will be near to you as you grieve a lost relationship. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Jesus binds our wounds and reminds us that He has never left us. His love is perfect even when the love we experience from other people is not.

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YOU’VE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR SEVERAL YEARS NOW. DO YOU HAVE ANY TIPS FOR KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHRIST-CENTERED?

If Jason (my boyfriend) and I have learned anything in the past 3 years, it is that keeping your relationship Christ-centered is the absolute most important thing in any dating relationship. Without Christ in the center, our human nature is so quickly pulled away from the things of God. Here are some tips we’ve learned:

1. Pray for each other.

Jason and I actively pray for each other in our personal time with God (that the other would be seeking the Lord, that the Spirit would reveal the next step, that the other lives into God’s best, etc.), and we also pray together. Praying together is so crucial because you can get to know the voice of your significant other as they speak to the Lord; that really is so special and has been one of my favorite things about praying with Jason—I love to hear his love for Jesus in his voice as he prays for us and thanks God for blessing us with one another!

2. Set boundaries.

I think this speaks for itself, but you have to set boundaries in every area of your relationship—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The Bible doesn’t speak a lot about dating relationships, but it does communicate that all Christ followers need to seek God’s best for their lives. That means moving forward when the time is right and keeping in step with the Spirit. It is also so important to preserve your own relationship with the Lord while also growing together.

3. Give grace.

No one is perfect. A Christian relationship will not be perfect.  But loving someone well means committing to a process where you give grace and forgiveness to each other. If you’re both chasing after God’s heart, He will continually mold you into people who are capable of loving each other well and capable of giving grace even when it might be hard.

Check out Hannah Kerr’s music here. To find out more about Hannah, visit HannahKerrMusic.com.